In our last post, we discussed the concept of “Hitting the Brakes” on unwanted thoughts. We explored the idea of interrupting negative thought patterns before they spiral out of control. Today, we’ll delve deeper into the second suggestion – Letting Go of the Struggle.
Humans have a natural inclination to feel responsible for everything in our inner world, especially our thoughts. We believe we should be able to control them at will and that they are “who we are”. However, the truth is far more fascinating and freeing – we don’t fully understand how or why we experience what we do.
Our perception of reality is filtered through a complex web of internal and external conditioning. We’re shaped by both out past and present societal norms, the media’s constant barrage of messages on how we we should act or pay attention (including our collective fears), and our unique family histories. All these factors, along with our senses, contribute to a constantly changing internal landscape. We simply cannot take everything in at once. We filter, we pick and choose based on past experiences.
This limited perception is why we often misunderstand reality. Not realizing how external and internal conditioning impacts us can lead to a rollercoaster of emotions, thoughts, and moods. A simple example: being tired can make us cranky. That crankiness is a combination of physical sensations, emotional states, and negative thought patterns – all triggered by our state of fatigue.
Mindfulness offers a way to illuminate this internal world. By becoming an observer of our own experience, we can detach ourselves from the struggle. We observe our body sensations, moods, and thoughts without judgment. We see the unwanted thoughts as passing clouds, the struggle as just another temporary condition.
Here’s the key takeaway: we don’t need to take ownership of these passing experiences. Identifying with them as “who we are” only strengthens their hold. Instead, we want to observe them with a sense of detachment.
Struggling with these thoughts isn’t a personal failing. It’s a very human response. However, viewing our difficulties as needing to be “fixed” puts an unnecessary burden on ourselves. We’re not gods; we’re human beings experiencing the world through a conditioned lens.
By letting go of the struggle, we can begin to experience peace and contentment. We become more attuned to our inner workings, allowing us to place our attention wisely and navigate the world with greater ease. This, ultimately, paves the way for a more peaceful existence for ourselves and those around us.
Stay tuned for our next blog post, where we’ll explore practical techniques for hitting the brakes on unwanted thoughts and finding inner peace.